A great many people find it hard to relate when music makes them cry. Crying is an emotion that can have many different causes, such as guilt or loss of a loved one. However, most experts agree that crying is a natural expression of grief and sorrow.
It seems strange when music makes you cry, but actually it’s a perfectly normal reaction to the beauty and drama that music adds to a scene. Have you ever been in a place where there just seems to be too much detail in a movie or a play? It can make for a very boring evening. Now, consider this: when most people are in scenes like these, they are forced to use words to describe their feelings and experiences. They would probably be more content if they had simply sung a simple sentence.
Imagine a beautiful sunset on a warm summer’s day, imagine the light filtering through the trees and feeling the cool breeze caress your body as you listen to the gentle sounds of the birdsong coming from your favorite song. That is what it’s like to be in a beautiful place and listen to a song that makes you cry. Now, consider how much better things would be if you had chosen a different song! You’d feel that same sense of peacefulness every time you listen to it.
Why do we tend to prefer sad songs? Is it because they touch our feelings in a way that happy songs do not? Most likely, it’s because sad songs make us feel good, so they are more enjoyable than happy songs. Imagine a beautiful sunset with shimmering water, imagine listening to that beautiful song as you lie on your back under the shade of a large tree, enjoying the gentle music and the warm rays of the sun. It would bring a smile to your face. It has the ability to calm you down.
When you listen to the sad songs, they often end in a question mark. Why? Because sad songs usually have a question mark at the end of the sentence. When you hear a question mark at the end of a sentence, it puts you into a state of pause or surprise. This is the power of language, the ability to connect with people on a deeper level – using words that put you into a state of surprise.
Imagine that you are in a beautiful place, with a beautiful singer. Imagine how good you feel when you listen to that song. Now, imagine that you are listening to that song in a supermarket, on a bus, on your bike, on your computer, as you’re waiting for the bus. This is the power of language, connecting with people on a deeper level.
If you used negative words when you listened to the song, you would get upset, right? This same theory applies to negative sentences. Negative words like “don’t”, “can’t”, “shouldn’t”, and so on, break the chain that is formed when you listen to a beautiful song. You might start crying. Instead of thinking, “That song makes me cry”, say to yourself, “Wow, that was really deep. I really admire that singer.”
There are thousands of songs out there that make you cry. Look for the ones that touch you on a very deep level, and you will connect with them on a different level. Then, try reading the lyrics by heart. It will help you understand better what makes you cry.